Talking to Kids about the Flu

The H1N1 flu has become part of our everyday conversations. Understandably, many young children may feel frightened and confused about the "swine" flu.

As parents, teachers, and caring adults, we can help them cope with stressful events and experiences. Although these may be  difficult conversations, they are important. There is no "right" or "wrong" way to talk with children about this and other stressful events.

• Create an open and supportive environment where children know they can ask questions. At the same time, it's best not to force children to talk about things unless and until they're ready.

• Give children honest answers and information. Children will usually know, or eventually find out, if you're "making things up". It may affect their ability to trust you or your reassurances in the future.
  
• Use words and concepts children can understand. Gear your explanations to the child's age, language, and developmental level.
  
• Be prepared to repeat information and explanations several times. Some information may be hard to accept or understand. Asking the same question over and over may also be a way for a child to ask for reassurance.
  
• Acknowledge and validate the child's thoughts, feelings, and reactions. Let them know that you think their questions and concerns are important and appropriate.
  
• Be reassuring, but don't make unrealistic promises.
  
• Help children find ways to express themselves. Some children may not want to talk about their thoughts, feelings, or fears. They may be more comfortable drawing pictures, playing with toys, or writing stories or poems.
  
• Children learn from watching their parents and teachers. They will be very interested in how you respond. They also learn from listening to your conversations with other adults.
  
• Don't let children hear or watch too many news reports. The repetition can be scary and confusing.
  
• Children who have experienced trauma or losses in the past are particularly vulnerable to prolonged or intense reactions to this and other stressful events. These children may need extra support and attention.
  
• Monitor for physical symptoms including headaches and stomachaches. Many children express anxiety through physical aches and pains. An increase in such symptoms without apparent medical cause may be a sign that a child is feeling anxious or overwhelmed.
  
• Signs that a child may need additional help include: ongoing sleep disturbances, intrusive thoughts or worries, recurring fears about death, leaving parents or going to school. If these behaviors persist, ask your child's pediatrician, family physician or school counselor to help arrange an appropriate referral.
  
• Although parents and teachers may follow the news and the daily events with close scrutiny, many children just want to be children. They'd rather play ball, games or climb trees.